Michael Ra Bouchard, M.A., Ph.D.
Doctor of Human Sexuality
Clinical Sexologist & Relationship Therapist
Dr. Michael Ra Bouchard is a board-certified clinical sexologist, sex therapist, relationship counselor and founder of Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness, LLC professional counseling services.
He is a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology and the American College of Sexologists, an Advisory Board Member of the American College of Sexologists, and Member of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, Association for Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, and American Counseling Association.
He is also a Graduate School Professor emeritus of Counseling Psychology and Human Services for the University of Phoenix, Hawaii Campus, and Faculty with the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco.
Over the past three decades Dr. Michael has maintained a global marriage counseling and sex therapy private practice—while variously based in New Orleans, San Francisco, Manhattan, Alaska and Hawaii—helping thousands of individuals and couples achieve enriched intimacy and greater happiness by getting the better of their sexual, marital and relationship challenges.
Dr. Michael is a seasoned sex therapist and relationship counselor. He is also an acclaimed sex, love, and relationship expert, board-certified erotologist, sex researcher, graduate school professor of counseling psychology and human sexuality, author, sexual advice columnist, and sexual health educator.
And while you may rightly associate us with sexual and marital health, please know that we are also a comprehensive wellness counseling center able to help you manage a wide variety of emotional and mental health issues. Please call for your free consultation to find out how we may help you.
* March 2020 An Open Letter to All *
Distance Counseling in the Age of Pandemics: Just how effective is it?
Dear friends and fellow world citizens,
At this difficult time of great change and sudden danger in the midst of the ongoing worldwide coronavirus panic, it's only natural to feel occasional waves of emotional trauma wash over you. Have courage.
Now is the time to ramp up your practice of self-care and taking care of others. Be especially gentle with yourself throughout this ordeal—and while you're at it—with everybody else. Same thing goes for cutting yourself and others extra slack in the coming days seeing as how we're all on edge.
During this period of globe rocking rapid upheaval—knocking us all way out of our comfort zones—we must be willing to change and go with the flow, even though people in general are terrified of change and grudgingly resist it.
All the same—even as we remind ourselves that life won't always be as terrifying and erratic as it is presently—the intelligent approach is to settle in for the long haul, "roll with the punches" as best we can, and adjust our minds as necessary while establishing new habits and routines for the duration.
In these uncertain times it helps to look for the silver lining in circumstances, and to readily partake of enjoyment where ever you can find it.
And in the coming weeks as the world of people goes up and down and people reactively go up and down with it, refuse to go up and down with them but rather stay steady and in your center. Your nervous system and everyone around you will thank you for it.
Throughout this unprecedented period of planet-wide quarantine, the emotional importance of staying socially connected with friends and family—safely and conveniently by telephone and internet—cannot be overemphasized.
Exercising humor—especially finding ways to laugh at yourself and your situation—is one of the best coping mechanisms we have for lightening things up when things aren't going as expected. While doing so won't eliminate the negative it will help to balance it.
For anyone with faith in a higher power, turn to it regularly for strength and succor to help sustain you during this unpredictable time of tribulation.
And above all remember, "This too, shall pass."
No matter what happens, keep in mind that how it passes will be largely determined by the mindset you keep.
Along this same line, American radio and television personality Art Linkletter perceptively advised, "Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out." To that end, when you suddenly find yourself swept up in a huge wave, the best thing to do is ride it out with everything you’ve got while taking as much pleasure as possible along the way.
Consequently, strive to stubbornly hold positive expectations and keep as many pleasant thoughts as possible in the upcoming days and weeks, even as you make every effort to stay centered and adjust and adapt accordingly in these unsteadying times.
What's more, don't hesitate to seek out counseling locally or online if you're feeling anxious or depressed and can't seem to shake it.
In this “time-out interval” of people sheltering at home to stay well, distance counseling might be the only way we can take measures to protect our emotional health while also protecting our physical health.
The good news in this scary brave new world of practicing social distancing to keep everyone healthy is that numerous research studies have long confirmed telephone distance therapy can be every bit as effective as face-to-face therapy.
And while it is certainly different working with a therapist by telephone, it is neither better nor worse than doing in-person therapy, especially when the clinician is well-trained and specializes in the art of distance counseling.
It takes strength and courage to ask for help. And yet as many who once despaired can now bear witness today—with help comes hope.
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Dr. Michael is a long-time pioneer of distance counseling.
He is a professionally trained telephone counselor with over 35 years of telephone counseling experience.
Dr. Michael is a well-seasoned distance counselor. He was an early adaptor of telehealth distance consulting via telephone counseling in 1981, and online guidance in 1995. Most important of all—unlike the vast majority of utterly untrained and unprepared self-described "distance counselors" sprouting-up recently with woefully overconfident proposals to provide "Telephone Counseling" or other virtual services—
Dr. Michael is in fact a highly trained, talented, and eminently qualified distance counseling specialist.
Beginning his counseling career in 1981 as a young newly-minted clinician, the future Dr. Michael—over the course of the next five years—chose to specialize in the delivery of high quality telephone counseling by training as a 24-Hour crisis intervention and suicide prevention telephone helpline counselor with the New Orleans Crisis Line.
In 1986, Dr. Michael concluded his five year "baptism by fire" crisis hotline counselor apprenticeship to pursue full-time academic study within two specialized graduate school programs in preparation of becoming the highly-trained and credentialed marriage counselor and sex therapist; subsequently earning his master of arts degree in clinical counseling psychology in 1989 and doctorate degree in clinical sexology in 1994.
Over three decades of telephone and office sessions with many thousands of clients worldwide since have deftly seasoned and helped Dr. Michael evolve into an exceptionally proficient clinician who continues today to excel in rendering aid, comfort and precious hope, whether face-to-face in his Hawaii office or worldwide telephonically.
Specializing as a Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) clinician, Dr. Michael utilizes only the most effective and proven approaches in cognitive behavioral counseling and psychological empowerment. Through his global psychotherapy practice he provides discreet, completely confidential and leading-edge mental health care to clients locally, nationally, and internationally via telephone distance counseling.
Private home consultations anywhere in the world are sometimes available for clients seeking intensive in person treatment within the privacy and comfort of your home. Dr. Michael specializes in providing accelerated intensive therapy and 100% discreet treatment to celebrities and high-profile individuals. Please call for details.
BUSINESS PARTNER COUPLES COUNSELING
For Anyone Wanting to Work Better Together as a Team
For interpersonal conflict and challenges within a BUSINESS PARTNERSHIP, Dr. Michael's expertise includes providing confidential Business Partner Couples Counseling for anyone in a business relationship seeking to get along better as partners. When counter-productive or destructive interpersonal dynamics are undermining your ability to work well together as a team, Dr. Michael excels in helping partners decrease conflict while increasing ease and effectiveness within the work environment. Please call for details.
Holding a Masters of Arts Degree in Clinical Counseling Psychology from the University of New Hampshire and a Ph.D. from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, Dr. Bouchard brings over three decades of training, experience and heart to his healing work as a professional mental health counselor.
In addition, Dr. Bouchard is Faculty with the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, as well as Graduate School Professor of Counseling for the University of Phoenix, Hawaii Campus. Dr. Bouchard is also an Honorably Discharged 1970's era United States Marine Corps veteran.
Dr. Michael is honored to be an Advisory Board
member of the American College of Sexologists.
Aloha—"To Love is to be Happy With"
The Story Behind Our Name
In the Hawaiian language, Aloha stands for "love." It also has a deeper acronymic meaning of “The joyful sharing of life energy in the present.”
These guiding principles of Aloha were inspirational in Dr. Bouchard's naming his sexual therapy and marriage counseling clinic “Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness" upon the opening of his Hawaiian Island talk therapy and behavioral health practice in 1994.
Aloha doesn't exist in a vacuum; it exists within relationships, as ultimately all realities are made up of relationships. Relationships between people, people and Nature, people and their bodies, people and their thoughts and beliefs.
Aloha is the ability to exist in any reality in total harmony—
without judgment or comparison.
It is said that loving use of the incredible energy of Aloha is the secret for attaining true health, happiness, prosperity and success.
Accordingly for over twenty-five years, Dr. Bouchard and the Aloha
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What is a sexologist?
A sexologist is a sexual scientist with specialized training and advanced degrees in human sexuality. As sex researchers and educators, Dr. Michael and other research sexologists are recorders and reporters of the facts--what people do, think and feel sexually--and not judges of the behavior they describe. As a trained counselor, Dr. Michael offers therapeutically healthy and balanced perspective on all matters of sexuality and intimacy. With his dual specialization of clinical sexology and clinical counseling psychology Dr. Michael is particularly well-equipped to bridge the realms of sexual and emotional intimacy.
What is sex therapy?
Sex therapy can facilitate a person in healing past, recent or ongoing sexual hurts and pains that prevent them from fully claiming and celebrating themselves sexually. The process essentially consists of recognizing and releasing old self defeating sex-negative programs while concurrently replacing them with life affirming and sex-positive attitudes and healthy loving behaviors. The end results ultimately lead to increased freedom and self permission to celebrate ourselves in fullness as healthy and vibrant sexual beings. As an added bonus, by claiming and expanding ourselves sexually all other areas of our life and relationships are likewise enhanced and expanded.
Most of us derive a warm satisfaction when we feel our lives are aligned with our ultimate values, and conversely experience feelings of distress and unrest when they are not. For these reasons, selecting a therapist who respects your values is essential. The practice of sex therapy is as much an art as it is a science; essentially, it is more a reflection of that therapist's own individual creative synthesis than a data-determined process. Science and ideology are both belief systems that influence the nature of clinical interactions. In the end, the best counseling respects each client's personal values while providing informed choice options.
Informed choice is the process of choosing from options based on accurate information, knowledge, and personal empowerment. As a seasoned and globally acclaimed sex therapist, Dr. Michael is highly capable in assisting clients to achieve optimum levels of sexual and emotional health, along with increased capacity for intimacy and greater happiness. Dr. Michael helps clients within a professional, non-judgmental, sensitive, sex and pleasure positive manner so as to experience more of what is wanted and less of what is not within every realm of their life.
Dr. Michael encourages every client to make the best informed choices for themselves—each according to his or her own personal beliefs, priorities and values. As Dr. Michael is fond of saying, he is not here to impose his world-view upon anyone. On the contrary, he seeks to empower clients to achieve a clearer and expanded world-view leading to the making of better choices, each according to his or her own self-chosen goals, motivations and desires.
Why seek counseling from a sexologist?
As a board-certified clinical sexologist, Dr. Michael is a practicing clinician, sex researcher, graduate school professor of human sexuality and counseling psychology, author and expert in the respective fields of sexology and relationship counseling. His therapeutic focus is always results-oriented and applicable to everyday living in the here and now. Dr. Michael's candid one-of-a-kind thought provoking style teaches and assists clients to recognize and reframe their thinking errors and cognitive distortions of perception.
Specializing as an REBT clinician, Dr. Michael utilizes only the most effective and proven approaches to counseling.
From 1991-95, Dr. Michael perfected his REBT clinical skills in his Manhattan private practice. During this same period he had the extremely good fortune to be both a student and counseling client of the eminent sexologist, world renowned psychologist, and acknowledged "father" of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, the late Dr. Albert Ellis.
As a care giver today, Dr. Michael continues to embrace the philosophy of empowering his clients to consciously live at cause in their life so as to bring about more of what is wanted and less of what is not.
What is Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy?
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is a theory of personality and system of psychological training and treatment that emphasizes the role of unrealistic expectations and irrational beliefs. REBT is based upon the precept that emotions follow from our thoughts and judgments about people and events, and not from people or events themselves. REBT seeks to address disturbances caused by false and distorted beliefs towards overcoming the predisposition towards faulty thinking. As a skilled and seasoned REBT counseling expert, you can trust discussing your most private matters frankly and openly with Dr. Michael.
What is Marriage Counseling?
Marriage Counseling is a form of counseling that will work for most every couple—marrried or not—who are willing to work at it. It merely requires the willingness of both people to invest in maintaining their relationship and a tenacity to hang in there and go the distance. Counseling can help you to develop sufficient self-awareness to be honest with yourself and the role you play in your relationship, and can help you to develop empathy by reflecting on how your behaviors and motivations are impacting your partner. By going through this healing process, your relationship becomes all the richer and stronger for it. Along the way, you move past blocks to claim win-win solutions. Seeing a skilled and seasoned therapist may very well save your relationship.
Dr. Michael respects each client’s personal values
and does not judge or discriminate against anyone.
He is committed to providing excellence in every session,
whether meeting face-to-face in his office
or globally via phone counseling and online guidance.
As a board certified clinical counseling sexologist in private practice for over 25 years, Dr. Michael Ra Bouchard has frequently heard clients speak about difficulties in locating a trained and talented counselor to help with their sensitive sexual concerns and private relationship problems. With all the talk and attention given to sex and relationships today, one might expect that a professionally qualified "sexdoc” would be about as common as your neighborhood corner convenience store.
Surprisingly, there are at most only a couple of thousand professionally trained and board-certified sexologists in the entire world, with the vast majority of them working in a multitude of disciplines outside of the counseling field. As for the handful of sexologists specializing in sex therapy and relationship counseling, even fewer in number are the tiny minority of us possessing both an advanced counseling psychology degree and an advanced sexological degree. Apparently, we "full pedigree" counselor-sexologists are scattered rather sparsely around the planet!
Dr. Bouchard is a well-trained and highly educated clinical sexologist and clinical counseling psychologist, holding a Doctorate in Human Sexuality and a Master of Arts in Clinical Counseling Psychology. As a board-certified clinical sexologist at Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness, LLC, Dr. Michael specializes in all matters of sexuality, intimacy, marriage and relationship counseling, guidance and therapy.
In addition to being an acclaimed sex therapist and marriage counselor, Dr. Michael is a professionally trained telephone counseling specialist with over 35 years of telephone counseling experience. As an accomplished and reputable distance counselor rendering aid, comfort and precious hope to many thousands of clients since 1981, you can trust Dr. Michael for competent, confidential, and nonjudgmental help by telephone with your sexuality and most precious personal relationships.
Dr. Michael strives to help clients make better choices and behavioral changes that bring about more of what they want and less of what they don’t in their lives and relationships. Above all else, Dr. Michael considers himself privileged to help people change their lives; through their gritty determination to scratch and claw their way to the truth, his clients remind him daily that he is a human being first and a counselor second.
Nothing replaces a face-to-face visit with your doctor. While it would be ideal to meet together in person it could prove expensive and impractical. Fortunately, with more three decades of providing telephone counseling experience, Dr. Michael's telephone sessions reflect the same care, concern, and effectiveness as his face-to-face consultations.
When it comes to such important matters as your personal sexuality and intimate relationships, it’s essential to know that you’re working with an accomplished, skilled, and seasoned clinician you can trust. Whether you seek counseling, therapy, or online consultations individually or as a couple, Dr. Michael will assist you in a safe, relaxed, and open environment. You can depend on receiving competent, confidential care and above all, informed and effective results-oriented treatment.
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