Michael Ra Bouchard, M.A., Ph.D.
Doctor of Human Sexuality
Clinical Sexologist & Relationship Therapist
Dr. Michael Ra Bouchard is a board-certified clinical sexologist, sex therapist, relationship counselor and founder of Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness, LLC professional counseling services.
He is a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology and the American College of Sexologists, an Advisory Board Member of the American College of Sexologists, and Member of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, Association for Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, and American Counseling Association.
He is also a Graduate School Professor of Counseling Psychology and Human Services for the University of Phoenix, Hawaii Campus, and Faculty with the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco.
For more than three decades Dr. Michael has maintained a global private practice—while variously based in New Orleans, San Francisco, Manhattan and Hawaii—helping thousands of individuals and couples enrich intimacy and experience greater happiness by overcoming sexual, marital and relationship challenges.
Dr. Michael is a seasoned sex therapist and relationship counselor. He is also an acclaimed sex, love, and relationship expert, board-certified erotologist, sex researcher, graduate school professor of counseling psychology and human sexuality, author, sexual advice columnist, and sexual health educator. Dr. Michael is a long-time pioneer of distance counseling. He became an early adaptor of telephone counseling in 1981 and of online guidance in 1995.
For anyone located outside of Hawai'i, Dr. Michael is a highly talented and eminently qualified telephone counseling specialist.
Dr. Michael is a professionally trained telephone counselor with over 35 years of telephone counseling experience. As a young professional starting out in his career, he chose to specialize in the delivery of high quality telephone counseling, beginning as a 24 Hour crisis intervention and suicide prevention counselor with the New Orleans Crisis Line in 1981. Since then, Dr. Michael has become an exceptionally proficient clinician who excels in rendering aid, comfort and precious hope telephonically.
In 1994 Dr. Michael permanently returned to his early childhood home of Hawaii and founded Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness professional counseling services. Specializing as a Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) clinician, Dr. Michael utilizes only the most effective and proven approaches in cognitive behavioral counseling and psychological empowerment. From his Hawaiian Island-based global counseling practice he devotes his major time to providing discreet, confidential and leading-edge mental health care to clients locally, nationally, and internationally via face-to-face office visits and distance counseling by telephone.
Private home consultations are also available. Dr. Michael is available for worldwide travel to clients seeking intensive in person treatment within the privacy and comfort of your home. Dr. Michael specializes in providing accelerated intensive therapy and discreet treatment to celebrities and high-profile individuals. Please call for details.
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For interpersonal conflict and challenges within BUSINESS PARTNERSHIPS, Dr. Michael also specializes in providing completely confidential Business Partner Couples Counseling for anyone in a business relationship seeking to get along better with their partner(s). When counter-productive or destructive interpersonal dynamics are undermining your ability to work well together as a team, Dr. Michael excels in helping partners decrease conflict while increasing ease and effectiveness within the work environment. Available face-to-face at your location or by telephone. Please call for details.
Holding a Masters of Arts Degree in Clinical Counseling Psychology from the University of New Hampshire and a Ph.D. from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, Dr. Bouchard brings over 3 decades of training, experience and heart to his healing work as a professional mental health counselor.
In addition, Dr. Bouchard is Faculty with the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, as well as Graduate School Professor of Counseling for the University of Phoenix, Hawaii Campus. Dr. Bouchard is also an Honorably Discharged 1970's era United States Marine Corps veteran.
Dr. Michael is honored to be an Advisory Board
member of the American College of Sexologists.
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What is a sexologist?
A sexologist is a sexual scientist with specialized training and advanced degrees in human sexuality. As sex researchers and educators, Dr. Michael and other research sexologists are recorders and reporters of the facts--what people do, think and feel sexually--and not judges of the behavior they describe. As a trained counselor, Dr. Michael offers therapeutically healthy and balanced perspective on all matters of sexuality and intimacy. With his dual specialization of clinical sexology and clinical counseling psychology Dr. Michael is particularly well-equipped to bridge the realms of sexual and emotional intimacy.
What is sex therapy?
Sex therapy can facilitate a person in healing past, recent or ongoing sexual hurts and pains that prevent them from fully claiming and celebrating themselves sexually. The process essentially consists of recognizing and releasing old self defeating sex-negative programs while concurrently replacing them with life affirming and sex-positive attitudes and healthy loving behaviors. The end results ultimately lead to increased freedom and self permission to celebrate ourselves in fullness as healthy and vibrant sexual beings. As an added bonus, by claiming and expanding ourselves sexually all other areas of our life and relationships are likewise enhanced and expanded.
Most of us derive a warm satisfaction when we feel our lives are aligned with our ultimate values, and conversely experience feelings of distress and unrest when they are not. For these reasons, selecting a therapist who respects your values is essential. The practice of sex therapy is as much an art as it is a science; essentially, it is more a reflection of that therapist's own individual creative synthesis than a data-determined process. In the end, science and ideology are, in short, both belief systems that influence the nature of clinical interactions.
Dr. Michael encourages every client to make the best informed choices for themselves—each according to his or her own personal beliefs, priorities and values. As Dr. Michael is fond of saying, he is not here to impose his world-view upon anyone but rather is here to empower others in achieving a clearer and expanded world-view leading to the making of better choices according to their own self-chosen goals and desires.
Informed choice is the process of choosing from options based on accurate information and knowledge. As a seasoned and globally acclaimed sex therapist, Dr. Michael is highly capable in assisting clients to achieve optimum levels of sexual and emotional health, along with increased capacity for intimacy and greater happiness. Dr. Michael helps clients within a professional, non-judgmental, sensitive, sex and pleasure positive manner to experience more of what is wanted and less of what is not within every realm of life.
Why seek counseling from a sexologist?
As a board-certified clinical sexologist, Dr. Michael is a practicing clinician, sex researcher, graduate school professor of human sexuality and counseling psychology, author and expert in the respective fields of sexology and relationship counseling. His therapeutic focus is always results-oriented and applicable to everyday living in the here and now. Dr. Michael's candid one-of-a-kind thought provoking style teaches and assists clients to recognize and reframe their thinking errors and cognitive distortions of perception.
Specializing as an REBT clinician, Dr. Michael utilizes only the most effective and proven approaches to counseling.
From 1991-95, Dr. Michael perfected his REBT clinical skills in his Manhattan private practice. During this same period he had the extremely good fortune to be both a student and counseling client of the eminent sexologist, world renowned psychologist, and acknowledged "father" of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, the late Dr. Albert Ellis.
As a care giver today, Dr. Michael continues to embrace the philosophy of empowering his clients to consciously live at cause in their life so as to bring about more of what is wanted and less of what is not.
What is Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy?
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is a theory of personality and system of psychological training and treatment that emphasizes the role of unrealistic expectations and irrational beliefs. REBT is based upon the precept that emotions follow from our thoughts and judgments about people and events, and not from people or events themselves. REBT seeks to address disturbances caused by false and distorted beliefs towards overcoming the predisposition towards faulty thinking. As a skilled and seasoned REBT counseling expert, you can trust discussing your most private matters frankly and openly with Dr. Michael.
What is Marriage Counseling?
Marriage Counseling is a form of counseling that will work for most every couple—marrried or not—who are willing to work at it. It merely requires the willingness of both people to invest in maintaining their relationship and a tenacity to hang in there and go the distance. Counseling can help you to develop sufficient self-awareness to be honest with yourself and the role you play in your relationship, and can help you to develop empathy by reflecting on how your behaviors and motivations are impacting your partner. By going through this healing process, your relationship becomes all the richer and stronger for it. Along the way, you move past blocks to claim win-win solutions. Seeing a skilled and seasoned therapist may very well save your relationship.
Dr. Michael respects each client’s personal values
and does not judge or discriminate against anyone.
He is committed to providing excellence in every session,
whether meeting face-to-face in his office
or globally via phone counseling and online guidance.
As a board certified clinical counseling sexologist in private practice for over 25 years, Dr. Michael Ra Bouchard has frequently heard clients speak about difficulties in locating a trained and talented counselor to help with their sensitive sexual concerns and private relationship problems. With all the talk and attention given to sex and relationships today, one might expect that a professionally qualified "sexdoc” would be about as common as your neighborhood corner convenience store.
Surprisingly, there are at most only a couple of thousand professionally trained and board-certified sexologists in the entire world, with the vast majority of them working in a multitude of disciplines outside of the counseling field. As for the handful of sexologists specializing in sex therapy and relationship counseling, even fewer in number are the tiny minority of us possessing both an advanced counseling psychology degree and an advanced sexological degree. Apparently, we "full pedigree" counselor-sexologists are spread rather sparsely around the planet!
Dr. Michael is a well-trained and highly educated Doctor of Human Sexuality and clinical counseling psychologist, holding both a Ph.D. in human sexuality and a Master of Arts in clinical counseling psychology advanced degrees. In his practice as a board-certified clinical sexologist at Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness, he specializes in all matters of sexuality, intimacy, marriage and relationship counseling, guidance and therapy.
In addition to being an acclaimed sex therapist and marriage counselor, Dr. Michael is a professionally trained telephone counseling specialist with over 35 years of telephone counseling experience. As an accomplished and reputable distance counselor rendering aid, comfort and precious hope to many thousands of clients since 1981, you can trust Dr. Michael for competent, confidential, and nonjudgmental help by telephone with your sexuality and most precious personal relationships.
Nothing replaces a face-to-face visit with your doctor. While it would be ideal to meet together in Dr. Michael's office, for anyone located outside of Hawai'i, this could prove expensive and impractical. If you're local or planning on visiting the Hawaiian Islands, by all means call to make an office appointment. For everyone else, be assured Dr. Michael’s more than three decades of providing telephone counseling and over two decades as an "online sexpert" reflect every bit as much of the same care, concern, and effectiveness as his face-to-face consultations.
When it comes to such important matters as your personal sexuality and intimate relationships, it’s essential to know that you’re working with an accomplished, skilled, and seasoned clinician you can trust. Whether you seek counseling, therapy, or online consultations individually or as a couple, Dr. Michael will assist you in a safe, relaxed, and open environment. You can depend on receiving competent, confidential care and above all, informed and effective results-oriented treatment.
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